Homeschooling is not always easy, that’s for sure. It is a blessing and enjoyable, but it’s also a big commitment. Dare I say it can also be stressful from time to time? Because being a mom is a difficult job in itself, adding the work of a teacher increases the workload significantly. Not to mention, I also work from home.
The role of a homeschool mom requires patience, understanding, and very high tolerance for the messiness and chaos. Even the idea of running a household, maintaining a marriage, schooling, and somehow taking time for yourself is indeed overwhelming. Here are some tips you can employ to de-stress yourself:
- Get some “you” time: Everyone needs some alone time to maintain sanity. Pray, take a deep breath, and then take a power nap during this period. A cranky mom is obviously not an effective teacher. Put yourself in time out, even if only for a few short minutes, to reenergize. Start your diffuser with your rocky mountain essential oils, or whatever brand you use and get in that War Room!
- Get some fresh air: When you’re feeling down, you can reset your day by taking a stroll with the kids. Close the books and head to the backyard; this should leave you feeling a lot better.
- Make a list: Once you are stressed out, you encounter a mental block that hampers your ability to think straight. Make a list of five things that you enjoy doing and include these hobbies into your schedule. If that’s not possible, keep this list close when you feel down. Sharing with your spouse also helps because he can suggest ideas on how to enjoy them.
- Have a backup plan: There’s no way around it, you will have bad days. When these bad days do rear their ugly heads, make sure you are prepared. For example, take class outside or enjoy an impromptu field trip. A change of scenery could do a lot in restoring your concentration.
- Ask for help: Attempting to do everything by yourself is the quickest way to burnout. If your spouse is around, ask him to pitch in and help with the school work or housework. Are your children participating in the household chores? They should be! Older children can do most household chores, and even younger kids can help with simple tasks like matching socks or picking up.
- Join a support group: Indulging in a fellowship with other homeschool moms is a sure way to arouse new energy in your homeschool program. Get to know how other moms deal with the same problems. Sharing ideas and getting peace of mind will help to reduce your stress levels and leave you more encouraged than ever. Talking with another homeschool moms who have the same struggles can help you feel more connected and secure. We are personally a part of Classical Conversations and a Bible Study at our church. Both have became HUGE blessings in our life!
- Don’t compare your situation to others: As the old saying goes, “Different strokes for different folks.” Though we may have some similarities in homeschooling experiences, our outcomes will never be the same as other people. Embrace your uniqueness and that of your kids and do not at any given time compare them to other kids. Other families have different priorities, and it’s better if you stay in your lane.
- Relationship matters more: Academics are important but your relationship with your children are even more important. Never allow yourself to destroy your relationship or brew hatred at home over academics. A spiteful homeschooling experience can be very stressful for any parent and even more damaging to the children.
- Laugh a bit more: Laughter is the best medicine. Don’t be afraid get involved in racing around the house or get the kids in a tickle fight. These high intensity activities are good for your heart and body. Baking muffins, working on an art project, playing board games, or doing some other activity simply for the pure joy of it is another way to feel refreshed and get back on track.
- Teach your kids to work independently: Increase your kids workload gradually so that by the time they are in the second or third grade, they can be able to do some work on their own. In the long run, this teaches them the virtue of responsibility while also relieving you of some stress.
- Enroll the kids in an extracurricular activity: Homeschooling offers you an opportunity for growth in all areas for you and the kids. Consider finding an outdoor activity at least once a week. This allows the kids to learn from someone else while also allowing you run personal errands. My boys Love Trail Life USA as well as AWANA.
- Exercise: Exercise is important for both you and the kids. Get out and get active. Take daily walks or ride bikes. It is not only good for physical growth but also works magic for your mental health.
I also love to read. Here are some of the books I recommend when stress gets in the way of your homeschool. Since fall is here and winter will be coming, it is a good time to join Awe Filled Book Nook too!
: A Homeschooler’s Guide to Unshakable PeaceA Simple, Mercifully Short Book on Homeschooling Creating a Place of Belonging and BecomingEducating the WholeHearted Child Finding Joy in Letting God Lead Your Homeschool:
It’s no secret that being a homeschool mom can be stressful. A bit of thought and preparation should make this an enjoyable endeavor where moms and children can benefit immensely in the long run. Put the tips above into practice and help relieve your stress.