I am so excited to share with you the second Seasonal Skirt Blog Hop! If you missed the Spring, one click HERE.
Today I would like to talk with you about modesty.
What exactly is modesty?
In today’s world modesty is becoming a real issue. It seems as if modesty has transitioned from what is defined in scripture, as well as in dictionaries, to anything goes, as long as the private areas are covered. I see girls who are raised in the church, who know the scriptures relevant to modesty and have spent their lives living in the world, dress extremely immodest. I have witnessed non-Christian mothers require their non-Christian daughters to dress modestly. This is not to say that every Christian dresses immodest and every non-Christian dresses modest. The question is why has modesty lost its importance in Christian families?
At times, modesty can have excessive rules. For example no lace; skirts must not be cut above the ankles; plain shoes; only certain colors, patterns, and/or fabrics; hair must be kept a certain way; clothes must be loose; sleeves must be worn between the elbow and the wrist. The list could go on.
A few months ago, I wrote a post about modesty beginning in the heart. This post (which can be found HERE) is one of my most popular posts. I believe that it doesn’t matter what clothing we wear, even something that is worn from the neck to the ankles. However, if a person has an dark heart and is not working to change their heart, no outfit will be modest. To elaborate, if a person has not surrendered to God completely and repented, their outward appearance will continue to be immodest. However, an revealing outfit can impact a repented heart’s witness and testimony for the Lord.
Many say that God doesn’t care about what we wear, but I disagree. Here is why I disagree:
If we travel back to the beginning of Scripture, Adam and Eve did not wear clothing. Sin had not entered into the world; they felt no shame or embarrassment.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25
When sin entered the world, they looked upon each other’s nakedness, and they felt ashamed and covered themselves.
And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. And they heard the voice of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God amongst the trees of the garden. And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? Genesis 3:7-11
God designed man in His image. There was no mistake or shame in God’s beautiful creation. It was after the fall when the shame was felt. When we feel shame, we want to hide. We don’t want that shame to be exposed. Adam’s and Eve’s shame was exposed, which is why they covered their shame with fig leaves.
The natural solution for covering our bodies is through modesty. In the Bible, it speaks of modesty and its importance.
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 1 Timothy 2:9
Like so many other topics, the world diminishes the importance modesty and desensitizes us to that subject. Need proof? Visit the movie theater, turn on the television, look at a magazine, or go to the mall.
Commercial advertisements downplay the importance of modesty. These “sexy ads” flood the networks. At any given time of day, we see ads that encourage us to “flaunt our goods” through advertisements of undergarments, swimwear and other clothing. The world tells us to show off what our mommas gave us, not what God gave us. We’re encouraged to wear the latest style, no matter how immodest it is. However, as Christians we have to be careful! We are told that we’re pig-headed and old-fashioned. We are told not to judge a book by its cover; but the first thing we see is a person’s outward appearance – their clothing (i.e. their cover). It sends an extremely mixed signal to meet a Christian and see they are dressing in something that does not honor The Lord. Ladies, while we are not responsible for another’s sin, we are responsible for trying our hardest not to cause our brothers to stumble!
Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way. Romans 14:13
I have posted about this before because of its importance. Men are visual. I agree that a man can lust at almost anything a woman wears, but the majority of men will lust through what they see. If we are wearing miniskirts that barely cover the private areas, or low cut tops that expose our chests, we’re not giving men much of a fighting chance. How many times have you witnessed, or even experienced, a man staring at a woman because of their low cut clothing? We should strive to make it harder for them to do so. Wearing modest clothing is huge help!
Ladies, we must also be concerned about what we are teaching our children! Not only our biological children, but also the children we meet daily.
God has blessed me with all boys. I am not just taking care of kids; I am raising men! I have a 10-year-old who is in the midst of the dreaded tween years. I hear so many kids his age saying things about women, such as “she’s hot” and other things that I am sure you can imagine. My boys do not say these things. I believe a large part of it is that my boys are raised to respect women. They also are sheltered from the sex-crazed world we live in. We are always talking to our boys about what the Bible says about a wife, women, and marriage. Our discussions with them are Biblical, not worldly. We have taught my 10-year-old to look away at immodestly dressed women. We have taught him that when the time comes to choose a wife, to search for a woman who is after God’s own heart – one who honors God through modesty, both in her heart and how she dresses for the Lord. Ladies, if you are a mother and you are dressing immodest, what are you teaching your children? If you have daughters, what will you pass on to them? Will they learn to dress appropriately for the Most High? Will they try to win their future husbands with their bodies? Will they dress for the world?
There is much confusion in today’s world, and our clothing can help prevent that confusion.
If I haven’t stirred the pot of controversy yet, I am pretty sure I am about to. So, before I continue, I am aware of the skirt vs. pants argument. I get it. I really do. We all have to pray and seek God in all things including the clothing we wear. I have posts HERE, HERE, and HERE about my own path to modesty. I also occasionally wear pants, culottes, or capris, depending upon my activities. However, I take particular steps to ensure my bum and pelvic area are covered. For example, if I am wearing jeans, I wear a tunic.
Let’s face it, in this day and time there is a lot of confusion in the world. Confusion is ranging from men dressing as women to women dressing as men. Now the craze has started with dressing children as the opposite sex.
God created men and women to be different. Yes, I did say that. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. Men and women are vastly different. They each have different physical characteristics. They each have different roles and purposes in life. I know this doesn’t sound politically correct, but it is true. As the world has taken more of a rebellious turn, it has become worse over the years. This gender confusion has caused so much heartache over the years. I have experienced this first-hand from a member of my own family. My heart absolutely breaks at all this rebellion and headache that is caused by getting outside of the Will of God.
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God. Deuteronomy 22:5
The above verse is what we used as a guide during my path to modesty. My husband and I also performed exhaustive research and studies that helped to lead us to know and understand the scripture and make decisions for our family as far as clothing goes. As a Christian, I represent God all the time. Not just on Sundays, or when I am witnessing to someone, but ALL the time. Also, I realized that modesty was important as my husband is currently going through seminary. I don’t want to wear something immodest and affect his ministry. However, the ministry of Christ is one that I take serious regardless of seminary.
We believe that Christ tells us that women should dress like women and men should dress like men. It doesn’t get any simpler than that. With the rise of so many movements, we need to evaluate our role as a Christian woman carefully. Ladies, we must weigh these actions against God’s Word.
How we dress tells our story. Do you want to be an example of what not to do? Or do you want your story to be a testament unto the Lord?
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. Galations 6:7-8
I have witnessed a rise in families who listen to the world saying, “God doesn’t care what you wear. Come as you are.” When the Bible speaks of coming as you are, it is speaking of your heart. Come as you are means to come to Christ right now and don’t tarry. Come as you are and repent your sins and clean up your life. It isn’t saying to leave your bed and head straight for church. Personally, our conviction on dress for church is we should give God our best. We are the bride of Christ. We dress up for nights out with our friends, dates, meeting important people, job interviews, etc. We want to look our best for these things. Why would we not take the time to dress up for our King? This is another reason we are skirts 95% of the time. We are always with our King and try to dress as such.
Another thing I find disheartening is that many young Christian ladies are not encouraged to cover their bodies even in church! Many young Christian women are not taught the importance of protecting their bodies for their future husbands. The time to start teaching girls of these importances does not start when they’re in junior high or high school. The time to start preparing them is when they’re toddlers. Unfortunately, as these ladies grow into women, sadly they are not dressing any different than the world. Parents, we must take a stand on this. We cannot allow our children to dress ungodly and then expect them to attract the Godly man we have prayed for. If you’re like me and have all boys, the same applies. If you haven’t talked to them and showed them modesty in yourself, what kind of woman do you think they will look for? If you haven’t shown them scripture, what kind of woman will they be attracted to? If you haven’t talked to your boys, do you think they will search for a Godly woman or a worldly woman?
My challenge to you is this:
- Go through your closet and look at your clothing.
- As you look at each piece, ask if this is for attention of the world or if the outfit is honoring God
- Decide what message your clothing sends out and purge the clothing that is not honoring God. Even if you do not have many clothes left, having a few that honor God is better than a closet of clothing that is against His Word.
When it comes to modesty, the cover says a LOT about the book. (The following is taken from a post HERE)
When it comes to MODESTY, the “cover” says an awful lot about the book. I can tell a WHOLE lot about a book that has the word “Penthouse” and naked lady on the cover! In the same way, our clothing, and our attitude about modesty goes a LONG way in making a statement about where we are at spiritually. Our “cover” (clothing) says much about our “book” (heart). Our clothing and the corresponding modesty makes a statement and gives non-verbal indications about topics such as:
- Do I know God’s Word?
- Do I take God seriously?
- Who owns my body?
- What is my attitude about sin?
- What is my attitude about purity?
- What is my attitude towards the opposite sex?
- What is my attitude about money?
- Am I in close fellowship with God?
- Do I take my Christian testimony seriously?
- Am I more like the world, or like Christ?
- Am I more attached to the world, or to God?
There is a lot that can be “judged” by our “cover,” however, I’m not suggesting we start running around and “judging” or confronting every person’s spiritual condition based on a tight blouse or a pair of low-cut jeans. What I am suggesting is this:
- Individual Christians should start seriously considering and evaluating what they wear, and in light of God’s Word, what statement is made publicly about our private spirituality
- Parents should quit ignoring/minimizing this issue and realize that clothing and modesty is an integral part, and statement, about the spiritual lives of children and parents alike
- Church leaders should evaluate the need for teaching and instruction in this area, and assess the spiritual effect on your flocks that results from ignoring the plummeting standards of modesty in our culture today.
- Whether collectively as the modern church, or as individual Christians, our clothing, and our modesty, make very powerful statements to a watching and dying world about our faith, our God and our commitment.
Finally, I am sharing my outfits today as inspiration! My intention is to show you a way you can dress modestly on a budget. I am using ONE skirt to show how it can be paired up with different tops and shoes to make several outfits! I am in love with this skirt and packed it to wear while traveling during our trip. It is so comfortable and I definitely made a good choice in taking it. I think it mixes well with many different outfits!
So where did I get my outfits?
Outfit 1: Sweater-Old Navy, White Undershirt-halftee.com, Jean Skirt-Christopher & Banks on sale, Shoes-Coach brand bought at the Exchange, Headband: Lilla Rose
Outfit 2: Headband-Garlands of Grace, Shirt-Old Navy Brand bought at Goodwill, Undershirt-halftee.com, Skirt-Christopher & Banks, Shoes-Sperry bought at the Exchange
Outfit 3: Purple, blue and white stripped top bought at Christopher & Banks on sale, Undershirt-Christopher & Banks, Skirt-Christopher & Banks, Shoes-Sperry bought at the Exchange, Headband-Lilla Rose
Outfit 4: Shirt Sleeved Sweater-bought at the Exchange, Pink and White Polka dot shirt- purchased at the Exchange, Skirt-Christopher & Banks, Shoes-Sperry bought at the Exchange, Headband-Lilla Rose
Check out the other bloggers in the blog hop at the following links AND if you’re a blogger, link up with us!!!
Dusty at To the Moon and Back
Erin at For Him and My Family
Kyndra at Sticks, Stones, and Chicken Bones
Selena at Look! We’re Learning!
Mrs. Warde at Sceleratus Classical Academy
Caroline at The Modest Mom
Melissa at Life Off the Paved Road
Dawnita at Fogleman Forerunner
Hilary at Our Homeschool Studio
Annette at In All You Do